So I just finished a book called "The Next Thing on My List." It's not literary genius or anything (I don't have the attention span for literary genius these days!) but it did make me pause and think. The book is about a woman who gives someone a ride home from a Weight Watchers meeting and while the "ridee" is reaching in the backseat for a taco soup recipe from her purse they're in a freak accident and ridee is killed. The driver (the main character of the book) finds a list the ridee had in her purse called "25 Things I Want to Do Before My 25th Birthday." Main character is so overwhelmed with guilt because of the accident that she decides to complete the list for ridee before what would have been her 25th birthday. As I read this book, I thought of lots of different things: I've never made a list like this. I rarely even make to-do lists. I don't make New Years' Resolutions. I didn't even like setting goals on my mission. They once did this whole lesson in Relief Society about the importance of setting goals and writing them down, blah -blah blah. To me, setting goals equals setting myself up for failure. This is difficult for me to admit, I am many things and mediocre is NOT one of them. I'm an all or nothing kind of girl. But I guess that's why I don't make lists like this. You know, the "nothing" part. I have to say, though, that I'm really disappointed in myself. Why NOT set goals? At what point did I stop dreaming? Have I become jaded? Of course there are things I want to do, things I need to do and areas where I could certainly use improving. But what is wrong with me that I'm so afraid of disappointing myself? And why does it even matter? Is it laziness? Am I afraid of the accountability that goes along with A. Setting goals and B. Writing them down? And if so, why? I was so impressed with my friend Steph and her ambition to set 101 goals to complete in 1001 days and the thought of accomplishing 101 things I've always wanted to do IS a bit exhilarating. So last night I started my list. I just barely have 50 things on it yet and I hesitated posting it here because that just adds accountability and I'm trying to take babysteps here! I also have to say that I can't handle the committment of doing these in just 1001 days. So I'm extending mine indefinately and this will be my list of things I want to do before I die. No making fun of my list but if you can help me accomplish any of them, I'm open! So here is what I have so far (in no particular order):
1. Live in a foreign country again
2. Get my degree
3. Go on a cruise
4. Save money for something expensive that I want but don't need
5. Own a piece of jewelry from Tiffany & Co.
6. Love who I am
7. Be the wife and mommy that I've always wanted to be and that my family deserves
8. Take my children to Europe
9. Write my grandmothers' stories
10. See/Help Scott accomplish AT LEAST 1 of his dreams
11. Get down to a healthy weight
12. Run a 5K
13. Get a fabulous makeover--hair, make up, clothes
14. Spend an entire day at a spa
15. change someone's life
16. Make sure that the people I love know that I love them
17. Forgive someone
18. Ask for someone's forgiveness
19. Learn cake decorating
20. Get to a point where I feel like I'm effectively managing my money
21. Meet my sister Tasha
22. Attend the temple everyday for a month
23. Establish firm scripture study habits
24. Visit the Sacred Grove
25. Give a big donation to charity
26. Learn how to can food
27. Go deep-sea fishing
28. Go 1 month without eating any sugar
29. Watch the sun rise
30. Perform in a play
31. Learn how to speak Basque
32. Find Grandma Z's family (this will involve a trip to Spain)
33. Spend a weekend with my sisters Alicia and Brandi
34. Go rollerblading
35. Support a missionary who wouldn't be able to afford to go otherwise
36. Get pictures taken with all of my siblings
37. Sing karaoke in public
38. Pay for food at a drive-thru for the person behind me
39. Go to dinner with my family and order dessert first (note: do not do this the month I'm abstaining from sugar)
40. Do something big to honor my father-in-law's memory
41. See a Broadway play
42. Memorize the Articles of Faith
43. Have my tattoos removed
44. Learn how to play the piano
45. Spend an entire month NEVER, NOT ONCE using my debit/credit card. Cash for EVERYTHING, even gas!
46. Spend a summer working in a campsite as a "camp host" (this goal will come in handy if we ever find ourselves suddenly homeless!)
47. Take a gun safety class
48. Establish a routine of sincere morning and night prayers
49. Join a bowling league
50. Be in the audience for the live taping of a show (talk or game as long as it's one I sincerely like. Sorry Dr. Phil!)
more to come...maybe. Some of these involve pretty major committment and while part of me thinks I should accomplish these and then go from there, the self-depreciating part of me thinks I'm being a wuss and I should go for the 101. But would that overwhelm me? And I don't even know what I would want to add at this point? I mean, these are all the things I've ever really, really wanted to do. See? I'm pretty bad at this "life list" thing. What do YOU think?
Saturday, January 31, 2009
50--My version of "101"
Thus sayeth: Peggy around 8:04 PM
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6 smart remarks:
I, for one, think that is a very mature thing to do. (Not that you aren't mature already.) Make sure you blog about it as you get to check things off the list!
I agree! That is very cool! YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Oooh, I do love lists! And of course I love yours! I'm so proud of you for making the list. I totally relate... I am not a goal setter, or a resolution maker, on any level. But a good list? Oooh, I can really dig into a list. A list is more like the promise of things to come... they feel much more "positive" than goals do. (I know, I'm a dork. Please don't judge.) At any rate, I'm diggin the list - and the idea. I may have to copy you. :)
Laurie--why on earth would I ever judge YOU when one of the things on MY "Life List" is to take a gun safety class??? ;o) And I can't WAIT to see your list!
I love the idea of making a list like this and I think you will be able to do all of them if you put your mind to it and yes they will take time but the out come will be worth it.
Cool list, my dear!
I'm way impressed by #22. I'd love to do that myself. Get those kids in school...
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